As such, tall bottoms are often forced to compensate via hypermasculinity.
Because of this, short tops and tall bottoms are often overlooked or considered undesirable altogether. Taller men are expected to be tops and tops must always be masculine, while shorter and feminine men are assumed to be bottoms. Our heights and sizes play a role in how desirability politics affect us. They are, however, expected to align with their assigned gender at the expense of their own agency and desires. Other genders, the genderless, and the genderfluid are marginalized/ignored/erased/maligned. Men are expected to be as masculine as possible (the norms of which are decided intraculturally), and we are seen as more desirable if we are tall. In LGBT+ relationships, we are also all-too-often expected to conform to these standards. This criterion, including the expectation of being heterosexual while articulating our assigned binary gender, is called heteronormativity. We will conform, as well as fail to conform, to these socially constructed norms throughout life. From there, we are further subjected to gendering as we grow up. Our bodies are labeled from birth, when we are assigned sex and gender. In order to properly convey the background for all of this to you, we will have to note that additionally involved here is imposed heteronormativity and internalized homophobia, as well as the policing of expected gender norms. What he did was essentially sexual harassment.
Notably, he also felt very comfortable invading my personal space. I also find it interesting that he went out of his way to insult and shame my hypothetical counterpart (and, by extension, insult and shame me and my sexual/dating choices)-a counterpart who is less favored for someone like me within the context of heteronormative desirability politics. This is compounded by how size disparity is fetishized and how that translates into the politics of desirability. This is largely because this is how my heterosexual counterparts tend to be. I always find it interesting (read: puerile) how men at or below average height assume, because I am tall, naturally muscular, and broad, that by default I am and should be interested in someone who is much tinier than myself. Pocket Gay’s final inquiry to me: “Why would you want to fuck a giraffe?“ “Small bottoms go well with big tops, because you can just fling them around on the bed and have your way.” Not only had he been presumptuous, but he hadn’t even given me a chance to express any interest in him, if I’d had any. I let him know that I have no problem finding dates and I don’t need any volunteers. She was with a “pocket gay” who, after first trying to sit on my lap without my consent, sized up my income by assessing my coat as an “expensive” piece of clothing and volunteered himself to accompany me on a date. RELATED: Why Black gender conversations will always fail unless we center Black children I am a spiritual mercenary, and this client normally receives quarterly divinations from me, so we began to chat about some upcoming goals to be addressed during our next meeting. She was surprised to see me in London, of all places. I ran into a client of mine on the tube recently.